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   Barbara L. on October 25, 2018 at 2:58 pm

   Sometimes I find myself speaking “woe is me” to friends or at the caregiver support group. I don’t mean to be concentrating on me me me! But, the group IS to support one another in our caregiving journey. But, I was complaining about my hubby being mean and ugly to me this one time, and another woman caring for her husband with dementia/Alzheimer’s disease, said…”Well, at least your husband knows who you are!”

   GUT PUNCH!!! That stopped me in my tracks and made me really think about how I was coming across to others. Later, I thanked her; and I really do try to not be that “woe is me” person. But, sometimes I do need to unleash and share.

   Thank you for these words, and making me continue to think about how I am perceived vs. how I WANT to be perceived!!

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     karen_seb on October 25, 2018 at 6:48 pm

     Oh my sweet friend. You are in such a tough spot. Praying for you and knowing that God’s grace is in steady supply in the toughest of days. Hugs! Love you so much and am so proud of you!!!!!

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   ~Karrilee~ on October 25, 2018 at 4:27 pm

   Sometimes hearing a hard truth is filtered through our feelings and it’s difficult to process the truth amidst the harsh or hurtful way it was brought forth… and yet… truth needs to be told, and heard and received, in order for us to grow! Speaking it in Love is really the only and best way to go about it and I think even that takes grace and practice! Great encouragement to be thankful for those in our lives who have access to speak plainly -for our good!

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     karen_seb on October 25, 2018 at 6:47 pm

     Oh, yes, those filtering feelings can and do mess us up. Also, sometimes when we have not given that person permission (or have not received it from them…) the desired result goes South. I love what you said about grace and practice. I know I pray a lot when I have one of these conversations coming up and the results have been better. thanks for stopping by.

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   Tara on October 25, 2018 at 5:40 pm

   Hard truth is sometimes hard to hear…but often it’s speaking the truth in love and blesses the hearer!

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     karen_seb on October 25, 2018 at 6:45 pm

     Oh, Tara this is so hard but so necessary in our community of faith. Often, the ones speaking these truths into our lives can be maligned to the point that we don’t hear their voices and particularly don’t feel their hearts. The love part helps though as you said. Thanks for stopping by. You bless me so much!

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     karen_seb on October 25, 2018 at 9:46 pm

     Tara,
     I believe there is a proverb about that it is better to have truth from a friend than flattery from a fool. Some of my greatest blessings did come from tough convos with honest folks.

     Thanks for stopping by.

     Karen